My tipping point – I wrote a book and realized I would need to look terrific if I expected to sell any books. I had written a book before and loved the confidence I got from looking good for the book tour, tv, and speaking engagements. If I wanted that confidence again, I would have to get stylish, lose weight, and tone up. At age 68, this would be my last chance to get my groove back. So I did it! I engaged a personal trainer, a nutritionist, and hired Megan as my style consultant. Megan spent a lot of time quizzing me on how I spent my time, what I wore for my activities, and what style of clothes I liked. She gave me fashion books to read and taught me how to glean info from fashion magazines. She helped me assured me there were stylish clothes for every body type – even mine. She has helped me release the beauty that is within me. I discovered how much fun it is to look nice.
Megan cleansed my closet, which didn’t take long because I only had black slacks and black shirts, and took the cast offs to a charity or to a consignment shop for me. She made an appointment with a fabulous hair stylist and even WENT WITH ME to be sure the stylist cut my hair the way Megan wanted. Megan put me in touch with an anesthetist who tinted my brows making me look years younger. I never knew there were such talented people waiting to help me! Megan spent a day pulling clothes and shoes prior to our shopping spree so all I had to do was try things and say yes or no. This was great for someone like me who would run out of a dress shop in bewilderment after only 15 minutes. Last week, we went shopping for accessories. Megan taught me how to buy them and wear them! Our last session will be on makeup and I just can’t wait. I am so grateful to Megan for opening the world of fashion for me.
I now feel that I can attend any event life throws my way and feel confident about how I look and present myself. AND — if I just need a little remedial help, I know Megan will be there:) Thanks Megan and all of the Southern Femme associates, you are the best 60th birthday present I could ever have wished for!!! You have made such a huge difference in the rest of my life!
So I e-mailed Megan and asked her if she could help me. “Oh, most definitely,” she said. Bless her heart.
We met at a barbeque joint near our home at the farm so she would not have to navigate the winding country roads to our home without cell phone coverage. It’s easy to get lost out there, and if you go around the bend, well let’s just say you’ve gone too far.
Megan was delightful – so full of enthusiasm and energy. And, of course, she looked like a fashion plate. But she was so young! She graduated high school with my youngest son, for Pete’s sake! What could this oh-so-young woman know about how to dress me?
As it turned out, she knew plenty. Style is style, no matter what your age. That was the first thing she taught me about living the stylish life. This girl may not have experienced as much of life as I had, but she had certainly lived the life she had lived with style.
First, she asked me to fill out a survey about my lifestyle, my feelings about clothes, and why I had engaged her services in the first place. I probably told her more than she wanted to know about that, and I was afraid I might have scared her off with my neediness. But not Megan – she was a woman up to the challenge.
Next, we went through my closet, garment by garment, she asking me questions like “Where did you buy that?” and, probably more to the point in my case, “Why did you buy that?” During the process, I found things I didn’t even remember buying. Megan was kind, but firm, as she had me discard item after item from my closet.
When we were through, I felt cleansed. I stood in front of my closet, admiring the empty spaces and wiggling my clothes on their hangers, just to hear them rattle against each other, something that had not occurred in my closet in decades. It was music to my ears.
The next day, Megan sent me a look book of outfits, in which she detailed what items of clothing to wear together, along with what shoes to wear with them. She even included jewelry, explaining how to layer necklaces and stack bracelets for the funky, artsy look that she deftly understood I had longed for all my fashion challenged life.
I now had outfits to wear to meetings, to cocktail events, to church, and on date nights with my husband. I would even look good knocking around the farm. I couldn’t wait for an event to come up so I could go confidently to my closet and select an outfit that I knew would look good on me. I cannot begin to tell you how much stress that has removed from the simple act of getting dressed in the morning. For the fashion challenged, you see, life can be hard.
Megan’s expertise extended to skin and hair as well. She recommended specialists in my areas of interest. She introduced me to an excellent seamstress for alterations. She taught how to shop for things that would look good on my body type, and how to care for my new wardrobe. She even shopped with me, and she brought me style magazines and articles about how to remain fashionably current.
I can’t begin to tell you all the ways Megan has helped me along the road to becoming a southern femme. And, yes, she travels to help clients all the time.
The other day, my husband and I were busily hanging pictures and moving furniture around in our new home. Out of the blue, he said, “You’re looking younger.” Since time neither stands still nor reverses for anyone, I can only think that my new style is working.
Megan has taken me from being an eyesore to being a sight for sore eyes. I no longer dread approaching my closet each morning, and when I leave the house, I feel confident I’m looking as good as I can look.
Move over, America’s Next Top Model, here I come!
From: “A Sight for Sore Eyes”, denisehays.com
Then I got home. Yikes! What am I supposed to do with all of these new clothes? What went with what??? Man, I should have made notes. Oh wait, Megan already thought of that! She emailed me a list of outfits to get me started. Then came the “look book”. Once again, we were in my closet but this time was much more interesting. She put outfits together and took pictures of everything so that I would remember. I had so many options! It was amazing how everything mixed and matched for totally new looks. I was blown away. This chick is good!
Months went by and we were still busy. We did skin care. We did hair (I chopped off my long stringy locks into a stylish shoulder length cut). We did make up. We did eyebrows and nails. She listened to everything I said… I didn’t want to look like a clown. I liked low maintenance hair. I hate my skin! She fixed it all.
During this time people started noticing. It was a slow progression so it wasn’t like anyone said “What is so different about you?” I would get the head nods or the sideways looks, like they knew something was different, but not exactly what it was. What was happening to me mentally was a different story. I stood up straighter and I didn’t back down as easy. My outside was starting to pull out the inside that I had been hiding for so long. I was not afraid to speak up. I felt like I had a right to be heard just like anyone else. This ultimately led to a nice promotion and respect in a field where women are rare. Instead of being patted on the head, I was being asked what I thought. No more cowering and letting others just walk over me. It would have never happened without Megan.
That was over a year ago. I still go on a shopping trip with Megan in the spring and fall to update my look. She is still pulling the best out of me. I told her this last trip I was ready to be a bit edgier. She delivered. She always finds the perfect looks to fit my personality. This time we brought a little of the rocker out in me. The cool thing is she did it in such a way that I do not feel like I am trying to be younger than I am. I am covered up but sleek. I figured I would not waste this awesome look. I brought out my keyboard and started playing out in public again. That is something I never thought I would do. Shy, simple, geeky me actually stepped onto a stage and rocked out. I loved it and plan on doing it on a regular basis. Just another gift from Megan!
I really cannot wait to see where I am this time next year. I know that Megan will be a part of it.
On a side note, my husband plays bass and was auditioning with bands. I got Megan to take him shopping. Wow! He is out of his fishing shirts and into looks that perfect for the jam bands that he likes to play with. He was recently invited to join a band and they are going to start touring in the spring. He is going to look fantastic on stage and I am going to be rocking the cool, laid back lady that just happens to be married to the bassist.