Aging gracefully is an art form but achievable, no doubt! As a Style Coach, I work with many ages and have met many women who have come to me after almost giving up — giving up on their appearance and the idea that they, too, can be stylish no matter their age.
I often remind my clients that being fashionable isn’t reserved for just the 20 something’s, but one must understand how to incorporate certain elements in an age appropriate way to create a polished and current look.
There’s something so beautiful about a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and the stage of life in which she is in. During my Style Strategy Sessions, my clients and I discuss how to accomplish just that!
These are the key points I cover with them; by sharing them with you, I hope that you, too, can find the confidence in becoming the best version of yourself where you are right now!
1. Assess your ‘fashion escalator’ to see where you are currently. One of my clients had the best analogy for why some women age less stylishly than others. She explained that when someone decides to keep their look as is (aka they don’t evolve their style over the years perhaps because they don’t feel like putting in the effort anymore, feel like they are too ‘old’ to put in the work it takes to look their best, they gain weight, or whatever reason it may be) it’s comparable to someone getting off an escalator at a certain decade or year. For example, if the last time you really updated your wardrobe (I’m talking basics AND trendier items) and your hair style/makeup was in the early 2000’s when you started working then that’s when you got off of the fashion escalator. Or perhaps the last time you really updated your hair or basics was in the early 90’s after you had kids, then that’s when you got off of the fashion escalator. Moral of the story fab femmes, no matter what’s going on in your life or what age you are turning you should NEVER get off of the fashion escalator. This does not mean being a slave to fashion or the trends, it simply means evolving your style and overall look with every stage of your life. By doing this you are sure to always look and feel your best, not to mention remain look like you belong in today’s world 😉
2. Determine the image you desire to be projecting for the stage of life that you are in. One of the first exercises I do with my clients is getting clear on what’s important to them and how they can then project that through their outward appearance. There are some values and traits that you will always want to project, but then there are ones that come & go depending on the stage of life that you are in. If you are starting a new job after being a stay at home mom for years, your image will need to evolve. If you are retiring after working in the corporate world for years, your image will need to evolve. This doesn’t mean you need to overhaul your wardrobe or get a drastic haircut, it simply means reassessing the look you desire to project and then figuring out what tweaks you need to make to convey that look to others. Now it’s your turn–what image do YOU want to project for this stage of life?
3. Set manageable ‘baby step’ goals for yourself to begin looking more current. I always tell my clients real, tangible, long-lasting style results do not happen over night! They don’t happen simply by getting a box of clothes sent to your house or by going shopping once. Due to this fact it can feel overwhelming knowing where to even begin and how to best spend your money. I highly recommend setting big overarching goals and from there baby step it out. What small tasks can you do, or enlist an expert, in helping you to start moving towards your goal of looking current and like the best version of yourself in this stage of life. Make a list and then work to keep yourself accountable! I promise the end result is SO worth it…and the confidence you’ll exude is priceless.
4. It takes effort to look effortless. I often hear women say to me ‘I want to look effortlessly pulled together…other women seem to look so pulled together, why can’t I have that too?’. Want to know their secret? They put in the RIGHT kind of effort. From monthly facials, to a nighttime skincare routine, to regularly cleansing their closet, to making sure they know what’s in and what’s out, these women are putting in the effort to maintain a current and effortlessly chic look. This is often why my clients seek out my guidance as it can feel like a lot of work if you don’t know exactly what to do to get to that effortless stage. So know you don’t have to go it alone 🙂
If you are looking to get out of a style rut, then consider a Style Strategy Session with me! (Click HERE to learn more.) Not a Birmingham local? Not a problem at all! I work with clients from all over! I can come to you, or we can chat via Skype. I can’t wait to meet you!
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